A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared.
He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to
force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making
any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it
could go no further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and
snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged
easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man
continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any
moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the
body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the
butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body
and shriveled wings It never was able to fly.

What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the
restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get
through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body
of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight
once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If God
allowed us to go through our lives without any obstacles, it would
cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. We
could never fly!

Intereting GP, nice! Thanks.

But what about those people who fly when they are being kind?

They are forced to watch the crippling of those they help, like supporting a wino buy giving him money therefore freeing him to get more wine to continue his demise. Or feeding a fat person or enabling a druggie to feed his habit.

If you bail your kids out all the time, you are enabling their weakness, while we all like to help out, especially our children, we need to see the big picture.

Or you could be taking the wino to a soup kitchen, talking the obese person into taking a walk with you, hold the drug addict's hand while they go through dt's, or teaching your child, when life is at it's lowest, there is always family to help see you through, and to be there when family needs them.